Rants By Abram Filby

When to Let a Hookup Go

“When things become like this – it is time to let go”

There are times that it’s just not going to work out. This is a thing that you’re going to have to accept in the world of sex dating, and there’s honestly nothing wrong with that. Even if you’ve done a lot of Canadian adult dating online and had it always end up working out for you, there’s always going to be that one girl that really just doesn’t end up hitting the right buttons for you, and if you have to say good bye to her, that’s just how it’s going to have to be. There’s no use lingering if you end up with girls that are like the ones that you’ll find on; they just aren’t going to work out. Choose from one of the many great sites out there and read their reviews. Check the Review of XXXBlackBook: Read Our In-Depth Site Comparison. Find out if this site is a scam or not before you dive in head first.

She Breaks Your Rules

“Rules are there for a reason”

Whenever you end up in a sex dating relationship, it’s a good idea to set at least a few ground rules when it comes to your dating process in general. These are the kinds of discussions that you really should be having anyway in any relationship, but when it comes to sex dating, it’s usually just a matter of making sure that she doesn’t get too attached to you, or that she doesn’t expect too much out of your relationship. If those kinds of rules are important to you, make sure you mention it early on, and make sure that she’s aware of them.

If you’ve done a lot of Canadian adult dating online, then you’ll realize by now that there are a ton of ladies out there. That’s why there’s really no reason to keep a woman around if she’s broken the rules of engagement. If you end up with a hookup that ends up breaking every single ground rule that you set down for your relationship, it’s probably a sign that this just isn’t going to work out. There will be other fish in the sea, and we highly recommend that the two of you part ways. There’s just no point in sticking around and letting her continue to aggravate you if you know that you can find someone else that’s just going to be better…and respect the boundaries that you’re laying down, to boot.

She’s Too Clingy

This is right back to the rule-breaking thing. Maybe you set down a rule that this is just a sex-only relationship. If she ends up inviting herself over to your house, coming to work, or generally trying to call you day and night, it’s time to really tell her to back off, or else the relationship needs to come to an end. There’s absolutely no reason for you to sit around and deal with this sort of thing, because it’s not going to do anything to turn you on. It’s just going to irritate you, and that’s not going to end up being any kind of sex that you want to have with this girl. It’s better to end it before it gets ugly for both of you.

In general, sex dating is supposed to be a casual thing. You’ve been around the block with Canadian adult dating online by now, and that means that you don’t want to end up with a woman that’s clinging to your arm and really wanting you to take care of them. She isn’t your girlfriend, she’s your hookup, and that means that you need to make sure she’s aware of that. If she starts being really attached to you, then we highly recommend that you just cut the wire and find someone else. There’s no need to sit around and deal with something that makes you unhappy.

You Just Don’t Click

“When you don’t click – you don’t click”

Once in awhile, you’re really going to come across a girl that’s amazingly hot…but the two of you just don’t click in bed. There’s absolutely no shame in not clicking, and that’s just something that’s going to happen from time to time. Even if you really enjoy one another’s company, you must have too much not in common when it comes to sex to really stay together, and with that in mind, it’s honestly just better for both of you to part ways and find someone else that can make you happier in the sack.

There can be a lot of things that make your sexual interests not click. Maybe you’re both Dominants, or maybe she’s into fetishes that you really and honestly just can’t get into at all. No matter how you try, these kinds of relationships really will never work out. It’s not worth struggling in this regard, and it’s just one of those times that you need to step back, relax, and think about breaking off the hookup for your combined sanity. The two of you can always remain friends, and if you ever are interested in trying out something new, you’ll definitely know who to call.

She’s Not Okay With [Insert Thing Here]

“She could become clingier”

Maybe this is going back to the clingy thing. Maybe she’s uncomfortable with the idea of you seeing multiple sex partners, even if she wants to keep the relationship casual. Maybe she just doesn’t like this one thing you’re into. Maybe she doesn’t like the job you have. Whatever it is, there’s something that she just can’t stand about you, and that really is going to start grating on your nerves after awhile. It isn’t like you’re dating her, so who is she to call the shots like that?

If this sort of thing comes up, it’s definitely better to just back away and find someone new. There are so many women out there that aren’t going to give a damn about that one particular thing, and that’s why you should always just know the warning signs, and when to get the heck out of there and find someone else that isn’t going to care about this nitpicky little stuff. It’s really better not to sit around and deal with her nagging about things that honestly don’t matter in a hookup, so keep this in mind, and find someone else that suits you better.

There are so many things out there that you really don’t have to tolerate when it comes to hookups. There are scammers galore, and then there are just ladies that are genuinely not compatible with you. There’s nothing wrong with finding a woman that just doesn’t click with you, but there’s definitely something wrong with keeping them around after you realize that you’re really not happy, and that you’d like to be with someone else. You just can’t let yourself linger with people that don’t make you happy!

We highly recommend that you take the time to think about the hookups you’re having, and whether or not they’re pushing all of your buttons correctly. Minor annoyances are going to happen no matter who you’re with, and that’s okay. It’s just a matter of knowing which things are tolerable, and which are things that you really are going to have to let her know aren’t okay. Cutting off hookups doesn’t have to be a chore, but honestly, it’s better to do it sooner rather than later. You just don’t want to sit around and deal with something that isn’t making you happy longer than you have to.

Five Ideas for Erotic Massage

“Start with a simple relaxing massage”

Massage is a great way to get in touch with your partner and make some real connections. Not only is it a stimulating sensation for the body, but it also impacts the mind. Women are notoriously psychological and complex about their sexuality, so there’s no better way to get in touch with that than combining the spiritual with the sensual. This turns to the erotic, and will result in some mind-blowing sex, or at least foreplay.

You also don’t have to necessarily be close to the woman you’re massaging, or vice versa, although some of the positions in erotic massage can be very intimate. It depends on your relationship with the woman, whether you met her through an alternative dating site, you’ve known her for years, or she’s your wife. The fact is that there are different levels of intimacy, and we’ll guide you the right way to know what you’re getting into. According to, massage has the ability to create a connection with your partner that is both caring and comforting, as well as inspiring a sense of empowerment. In any case, everyone loves a good massage, whether it has a happy ending or not, and is an essential part of most fetish guides. Read more about the Fetish guide, Fetish Dating Reviews, Summaries, And Tips For Dating Kinksters. Check the ratings of the site before making a choice.

Tantric Massage

“It is a form of erotic massage”

Tantric massage is an age-old art where sexual energy is channeled into a healing pattern and intended to evoke a feeling of well-being and closeness. This style of massage is fully nude and both partners are very intimate. If you haven’t known a woman for that long, or vice versa, although a full body nude massage sounds like a sexy idea, tantric massage and get a little intense. The receiver is in a very passive position, receptive to touch and not returning it, whereas the giver is in an active role, touching every part of the receiver’s body and paying particular attention to areas that usually aren’t the focus of erotic activities. Although the genitals and other erogenous zones are the focus, since this type of massage really is about sexual healing and intimacy, a big part of the tantric is touch. There are also legitimate spas that offer tantric massage. It’s usually service paired with beautiful women, but many of the legitimate businesses won’t offer sexual services the same way an escort service might. It depends on the country you’re in, the laws, and the establishment. Tantric massage can be impersonal if it’s a professional service, but if you’re engaging in it with a partner in the privacy of your home, we recommend limiting it to a woman with whom you want be emotionally and physically close. In other words, you may not enjoy a tantric massage with a random hookup or one night stand

Work up to It

“Try to have fun”

Whether you’re employing tantric massage or not, massage can be erotic if that’s what you want to make it. Like any regular sexual or erotic activity as you’ll see described on a fetish dating site, massage should be worked into just like sex. A man with taste, sophistication, and understanding of what good sex is doesn’t just jump into a woman the minute they get into bed together. There’s no pleasure in that, and you have to take your time to really get into it. Foreplay is always a must, and massage can be a huge part of that, especially since it’s so relaxing and gets the endorphins flowing. Start out chastely if you’re giving the massage, having the woman lie on her stomach and giving her shoulders and back a soothing rub down. Be careful and don’t do this too hard because you’re not a professional masseuse and you don’t want to start getting fancy. What is acceptable is following the lead of her body and giving a gentle massage. When she starts to get into it, you can have her flip over, and then really get to the erotic part. The point is that you a have to work up to it and in the case of erotic massage, working up to arousal and enjoyment gradually are the entire point of the activity.

Take It Old School, and Use a Vibrator

“Don’t underestimate the importance of a vibrator”

In the Victorian era of the late 19th-century, women were “cured” of hysteria by basically being brought to orgasm by physicians. Unsurprisingly, this resulted in many return trips to the doctor since women were essentially getting off as a legitimate medical practice that claimed to cure an ailment. It was the equivalent of a bullet point in a fetish guide from the before 1900, and unsurprisingly, also where the vibrator first popped up. Vibrators were offered for sale as medical devices that women could keep at home or on the go to “cure” their hysterical ailments.

Incorporate a vibrator into your massage in the same way. They can be used for therapeutic purposes as well as sexual ones, and use it as a massage device if need be. Personal massagers and vibrators usually look and sound the same anyway, only one can only be sold in sex shops and the other is sold at the local drugstore. Using a vibrator with a liberal coating of massage oil (cover the vibrator with a condom to prevent any bacteria), run the vibrator between your partner’s shoulders. It will give a mild, enjoyable sensation just like an electric massager, and then when she’s getting into the mood, go ahead and use it on her. This should be discussed beforehand so she knows what you intend to do with it, and isn’t surprised or pushed out of the zone. Consent is always a must, especially if you’re going by traditional fetish guides.

Roleplay Scenarios

Roleplay is always a fun activity that can be worked into almost any erotic scenario, and massage adds another element to it. To start, you can try a tame roleplay where you’re a client at a massage parlor and your partner is a sex worker. Try some in-character roleplaying, and spice it up by inventing a scene where your partner starts to perform sexual services and you or she recoils in shock. By adding a little bit of naughtiness to the erotic massage you take it to another level of sexy.

Health and Safety Cautions

Although most purveyors of erotic massage give it rave reviews on fetish dating sites, you also have to be careful that you’re not hurting your partner. You’re not a professional massage or physical therapist, so don’t go to town on your lady’s shoulders or neck working out those kinks. That takes a practiced professional with lots of years of experience and training and can result in injury and strain. Instead, focus on the act of touch, relaxation, and stimulation. Although the release of tension from the muscles does create a euphoric sensation, you’re not giving an erotic massage to work out those deep knots in your partner’s back and under her shoulders. Don’t use a lot of pressure when administering the massage. Check in with her frequently to make sure that the amount of force you’re using doesn’t hurt. Massage should never be painful unless they are being administered by a professional in a clinical setting. Don’t be afraid to use other parts of your body since erotic massages are intended to be just that…erotic.

Choosing the Best Lens for Your Camera

Getting a good camera is always the first step to wanting to pursue a career of being a professional photographer. But your camera is not the one and only thing you will be spending your money on, there are other equipment like tripods, stabilizers, camera bags, and of course, a whole lot of lenses. Although some of the other stuff could be obtained in the long run, lenses though are another story.

Different lenses make a photo of the same subject look differently, lenses can either make your photo a little brighter or more detailed. Kit lenses that are provided upon the purchase of the camera are not always the best lenses, but of course for someone starting out it would always do. But if you are planning to buy a new camera lens, how do you know you are buying the right one?

Read on for some features you might want to take note of in buying your new camera lens.

Will it be click… click… or clickclickclick?

The speed of your lens’s shutter is important to take note of. This goes hand in hand with the aperture and will determine how much light can come into your camera. The faster the shutter speed the less likely of your picture to become blurry. Low aperture and fast shutter speed are ideal if you would want a successful action shot that will not end up blurry.


Lense For Cameras

Ready for your close up?

If you are looking for telephoto lenses that can capture pictures from afar, it is of utmost importance that you know about its minimum focus. What is the limit of your lens? How close can it really get before it starts to get blurry? If you are the wildlife photographer type where getting close would cost you a good picture, then lenses with big magnification would definitely be your kind of lens.

Something that stays or something that changes?

A lens can have two kinds of apertures, a fixed aperture or a floating aperture. The latter is more expensive than the other but it does not necessarily mean it is the best, because it is up to your preference. Fixed apertures do not change as you zoom in, while a floating aperture otherwise does. But as you zoom and your aperture decreases you are going to have to be conscious about your shutter speed as it has to be a little slower in order to prevent blur.


The perfect camera

There are other tips for picking the perfect camera lens for you and for your camera, but it all boils down to your preference and your style in taking photos. Choosing the right lens is not a walk in the park, but do not worry, eventually you will get the hang of it.

5 Things to Know He Just Wants a Hook-Up

Meeting people and going on a date is essential for any relationship to grow. When you’re dating for the first time it’s hard to tell if he’s serious about you. You can never tell if he just wants to hook up or he’s really in it for the serious relationship.

 Though a lot of women rely on intuition to tell if he wants a hook up or not, they don’t have to any longer. Here are 5 signs to tell that he definitely wants a hook up.

  1. He gives you the obvious signs

A lot of guys are straightforward. Some guys will tell you from the very start he only wants to have fun, nothing serious. And you have to believe that when he says it. Don’t ever hope that date is going to blossom into something more emotional.

Sometimes though, guys can be implicit about hooking up. They say he’s very focused on his work or he just wants to hangout or be friends. That’s obviously saying he’s not looking for a relationship.

  1. He detaches himself from you

A lot of guys who are in to hook ups follow their time. They never go by women’s schedule. Guys who are into hook ups more often decline invitation from women and only come whenever they want. If he really is serious with you, he should find time to be with you.

Also, when you tell guys about the things they do that makes you smile and at some time they stop doing it, he could be doing it intentionally.


He gives you the obvious signs

  1. He doesn’t introduce you to his friends

Guys who are into hook ups don’t want you in his social circle. You’re a hook up, not a friend. Guys do not want the idea of you making a connection to his friends because one day when his done with you, or he gets bored, keeping you away from him and his friends will be harder.

  1. He never talks about himself, but is oddly interested to hear more about you

Sure, it may sound sweet and endearing to know he wants to know more about you, but that’s a good tactic to keep you attached and controlled. Men who talk less about their life are most likely just wanting a hook up. It’s another way of avoiding building a relationship.


Doesn’t introduce you to his friends

  1. He forgets – on purpose

Most men who are into hook ups sometimes don’t pay enough attention. He makes plans with you but ends up missing it because he forgot, or something came up. Some guys do this in purpose to avoid building relationships but continue making plans with you to keep you hooked.

A lot of guys seem interested at the start, but turn out to be players. It’s good to always look out for signs even if he looks eager to meet you and spend more time with you. It’s never easy getting over a heart break. Good luck!

3 Ways to Deal With Your Allergies – The Natural Way!

It’s once again the time of the year when pesky allergic reactions to substances in the environment sprout out of nowhere. What’s worse is that we have already wasted a lot of money trying various medicines and substances to alleviate the symptoms, yet it still doesn’t treat the condition. If you’re suffering from an allergy and you also feel this kind of frustration, the answer to that is just simple – deal with your allergies the natural way. Here are some healthy tips that will help you do so.

  1. Cleanse and detoxify – make it your mantra.

Ideally, it is best to clean up your diet 6-8 weeks before the usual onset time of your allergies. During these weeks is the best opportunity for you to shift your diet into a more wholesome and nutritious one to keep your system balanced. Dark berries are especially effective in detoxifying your body.


Deal With Your Allergies – The Natural Way!

During this period, you should also be able to avoid the foods and substances that trigger your allergies and acknowledge your sensitivities with particular foods. Also make it a habit to keep a food journal for a week for you to monitor any reactions to the foods you have been eating within 3 days. You might be able to discover that you are sensitive to other foods you didn’t know of as well.

  1. Avoid stress and relax.

Stress is one of the factors that you should be avoiding as well – especially if you are suffering from allergies. Little do you know, it can also be a stimulus that can tick your allergies off. When your body is under constant stress, it will keep working twice as hard to achieve equilibrium within your system.

To avoid stress, you can try attending to regular yoga classes in your place. If you’re not a fan of going out to unwind, you can always practice deep breathing exercises at home or take relaxing long baths. Avoid going out too much, especially if it does not contribute to your likings. Learn to say “no” to invitations that are not as important, as well.

  1. Go herbal.

You should go try nettle, ashwagandha, and milky oat seed. These are herbs that are known to calm and stabilize your adrenal system and strengthen your stress-response


Herabal way to defeat allergies

You can start with nettle by drinking its tea counterpart. However, you may also take 10-20 drops of nettle tincture in a day for 3 to 5 times. Continue doing so up to weeks prior to the allergy season, and then throughout the entire season itself. You may also use this outside of the allergy season, as nettle is a nutritious food that can be sprinkled on your food anytime of the year to make it more healthy.

You could always get rid of the medicine that may either arouse side effects to your body or slowly destroy your liver. Go natural when treating your allergies. It can do you more good than you’ve ever expected it to.

Invaluable Tips on Raising a Money-wise child

Parents are definitely the most influential people in a child’s life. And one of the most important life skills that they can help their child develop is money management. The good news is that you as a parent can teach these skills as a part of everyday routine.

1.) Teach your child the right attitude about money.

As early as three years old (or when your child can already distinguish between one dollar and five dollars), you can start teaching your child a healthy attitude about money by simply using the proper language. Don’t say “We can’t afford that” if you actually have the money but have decided not to spend it. Explain the reason instead. Say something like ”I have not budgeted for that” or “I’m using the money for something more important.” You want to show your child that you’re in control, but you shouldn’t resort to lying.

2.) Teach your child about budgeting, spending, saving and making good money choices.

You have to give some spending money to your child. Even a small allowance per week can be a good training tool. And to help him/her learn how to budget, develop a simple plan of how to allocate the money. You could do it this way:


Start Teaching Them Early or When They Are Young

60% goes to the savings jar

30% goes to the spending jar

10% goes to the giving jar

It doesn’t matter how it’s divided, but there should be a saving, spending and giving portion. Also, with a young child, a visual picture is necessary – hence the usage of jars. At first, let him/her see you put the money in the jars regularly. Afterwards, ask him/her to put the money. Make him/her feel that the money used is his/hers.

Don’t worry if he/she doesn’t get the concept at first. Just continue because you’re helping him/her develop the habit that will matter later in life.

Make your Lessons Age-Appropriate and Regularly Reinforce Them

3.) Talk about household budget, spending decisions, and rewards of work.

Your child should be aware of the costs of food, clothing, utilities and other expenses at home. You may ask his/her idea on “where should you spend your money now.” It would be a great learning experience.

You may introduce the concept of earning “extra” through “extra chores and activities” like mowing the lawn, raking dead leaves, watering the plants, etc. Through this, he/she can get a glimpse of the employer-employee relationship and begin to understand the concept of compensation for work. But you must emphasize that there are chores that don’t get paid because they are basic essentials (such as keeping his/her room clean, brushing his/her teeth, making his/her bed, getting up on time).

Also, allow your child to spend some of his/her “extra” money. If he/she is able to enjoy these rewards, he/she will better recognize the value of work.

Introduce More Complex Financial Matters When They Are Much Older

4.) Discuss the meaning of goal-setting, delaying gratification, interest, credit and debt.

When your child is about pre-teen to teen-age in years, help set a certain goal by asking him/her to visualize something that he/she wants to have, say a gadget, clothing, sports gear, etc. Then ask him/her to save for it diligently. Talk about saving as a means of developing the ability to delay gratification and to achieve that goal.

 Teach your child the concept of compound interest - that saving in a bank not only keeps money safe but also grows it over time.


Teach your child the concept of compound interest

Introduce the meaning of credit and debt – when there are times that you have to borrow money for a significant financial need. Teach your child that debts should be paid and savings can provide a financial cushion for that obligation.

Ultimately, you as the parent should be a shining example for your child. Practice what you preach. Be consistent with your message and your actual money management, too. Your child is more likely to follow your lead.

How to Come Up With An Effective Business Plan

Whatever type of business you want to start, it is ideal that you should have a concrete plan first. No matter how easy or difficult you think to operate the business that you want to manage, as long as you have an organized plan, and then everything will surely be settled.

The first thing is to come up with an effective business plan and that is when the challenge starts. You need to gather information and conduct some extensive research on the field of your business interest. When we say, get the necessary details that means all data. Studying all corners of the business would help you a lot in lining up your business specifications.


How to make Business Plan

What is a Business Plan?

A business plan may vary from one entrepreneur to the other. In terms of format, goals, background information, and almost all contents, business plans may differ. However, the common this is that a business plan contains formal statements in which an entrepreneur or group of business owners establish their objectives, their visions for the company they are starting, the major advantages of the changes they want to impose in their existing businesses and more.

It contains almost all details that the company has planned for the business. It covers all terms and conditions, the rules and regulations, the policies, the marketing strategies, feasibility studies and more.


Significant Usage of a Business Plan

An entrepreneur with a business plan is someone who aims to make the business stable. It contains powerful words that would serve as decision-making tools as well as an outlined guide in order to operate the business smoothly and profitably. Since a business plan contains the summary of the performance of the business as a whole explained in texts, pictures, and graphs.

It is a written plan that arranges all business transactions internally and even externally focused.

How to Start a Business Plan

1) Decide first what business you want to start.

2) Gather all the essential details for that business and compile them.

3) List everything you need for your business and canvass pricing for each item.

4) Conduct feasibility studies first so that you will have an ideal on the performance of your business; this means if the types of business you have chosen are doable and have high returns.

5) Highlight your vision and mission for your business and enumerate your goals.

6) Do not forget to include marketing strategies you will apply to generate more sales and increase profitability.

7) Illustrate you plans in pictures and graphs so that you will have a better view in looking forward for the success of your business.

A business plan also serves as inspiration to entrepreneurs as well as motivation tool in a way that you will have a clear vision on what would your business status five to 10 years from now. A business plan is a very helpful tool to organize every aspect and corners of your operations.